Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Sikap Yang Bisa Merusak Hubungan

This article below has blessed me and my relationship. I and Stefy have been through some difficult times regarding fighting and conflict resolution.

I would sometimes withdraw and would not talk at all, because of my anger; and Stefy would get very upset because I could never express what I felt or thought. It was all so confusing!

I didn't realize until I read this article.
I didn't know that that what makes we are men and women

Fewh,.. and now, again, we are trying to fight better and resolve our problems wiser.

Thank's God

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Saat Anda menjalin hubungan dengan seseorang, mungkin Anda pernah mengalami beberapa masalah. Terkadang masalah tersebut mengakibatkan perselisihan antara Anda dengan pasangan. Untuk menyelesaikan masalah dengan pasangan, sebaiknya Anda simak sikap yang harus Anda hindari agar tidak menyakiti hati pasangan Anda.


Berkelahi


Sikap ini berasal dari Mars. Jika percakapan menjadi tidak menyenangkan dan tidak mendukung, maka sebagian orang lalu mulai berkelahi. Mereka menyerang dengan menyalahkan, menilai atau mengadili, mengkritik dan membuat pasangannya terlihat bersalah. Saat pasangan mereka mengalah maka mereka merasa menang. Padahal sebenarnya mereka kalah. Intimidasi melemahkan rasa percaya di dalam hubungan.

Lari

Sikap ini juga berasal dari Mars. Untuk menghindari konfrontasi, kaum martian lalu menarik diri ke goa mereka dan tidak pernah keluar lagi. Mereka menolak bicara sehingga tidak bisa menyelesaikan masalah. Daripada berdebat, sebagian pasangan memilih berhenti membicarakan masalah tersebut. Untuk jangka pendek, pasangan ini memang merasa mendapatkan kedamaian dan harmoni. Tapi jika perasaan Anda tidak didengarkan maka akan muncul rasa benci. Untuk jangka panjang, pasangan ini akan kehilangan sentuhan asmara dan perasaan saling cinta yang membuat mereka tertarik kepada satu sama lain.

Pura-pura


Sikap ini berasal dari Venus. Untuk menghindari perasaan terluka atau sakit hati maka orang ini tidak ada masalah. Mereka tersenyum dan terlihat bahagia. Tapi lama-kelamaan mereka akan berubah menjadi benci dan menghambat ungkapan cinta alamiah mereka. Untuk menghindari gejolak maka orang yang berpura-pura ini bahkan membohongi diri mereka sendiri bahwa segala sesuatu baik-baik saja.

Menyerah

Sikap ini juga berasal dari Venus. Daripada bertengkar atau berdebat maka orang ini akan memilih menyerah. Mereka menerima disalahkan atau bertanggung jawab atas sesuatu yang membuat marah pasangannya meskipun itu bukan kesalahannya. Untuk jangka pendek, mereka bisa menciptakan kesan seperti pasangan yang saling mencinta dan mendukung. Tapi pada akhirnya, keduanya akan kehilangan diri sendiri.

Anda mungkin mengenali adanya salah satu gejala di atas dalam hubungan Anda. Masing-masing sikap ini bertujuan melindungi diri Anda sendiri tidak terluka atau sakit hati. Sayangnya cara seperti ini tidak ada gunanya. Lebih baik mengakui adanya masalah, bicarakan lalu hentikan. Ambil waktu untuk menenangkan diri lalu kembali lagi dan bicarakan lagi. Coba komunikasi dengan saling menghargai satu sama lain. Dari cara ini, Anda akan bisa menemukan cara bertengkar tanpa menyakiti hati atau menjatuhkan harga diri.


Source: Jawaban.com

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Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Don't mess with (older) women!

An older lady gets pulled over for speeding...

Older Woman: Is there a problem, Officer?
Officer:
Ma'am, you were speeding.
Older Woman:
Oh, I see.
Officer:
Can I see your license please?
Older Woman: I'd give it to you but I don't have one.
Officer:
Don't have one?
Older Woman:
Lost it, 4 years ago for drunk driving.
Officer:
I see...Can I see your vehicle registration papers please.
Older Woman:
I can't do that.
Officer:
Why not?
Older Woman:
I stole this car.
Officer:
Stole it?
Older Woman:
Yes, and I killed and hacked up the owner.
Officer:
You what?
Older Woman:
His body parts are in plastic bags in the trunk if you want to see.

The Officer looks at the woman and slowly backs away to his car and calls for back up. Within minutes 5 police cars circle the car. A senior officer slowly approaches the car, clasping his half drawn gun.

Officer 2:
Ma'am, could you step out of your vehicle please! The woman steps out of her vehicle.
Older woman:
Is there a problem sir?
Officer 2:
One of my officers told me that you have stolen this car and murdered the owner.
Older Woman:
Murdered the owner?
Officer 2:
Yes, could you please open the trunk of your car, please. (The woman opens the trunk, revealing nothing but an empty trunk.)
Officer 2:
Is this your car, ma'am?
Older Woman:
Yes, here are the registration pa pers. The officer is quite stunned.
Officer 2:
One of my officers claims that you do not have a driving license.
(The woman digs into her handbag and pulls out a clutch purse and hands it to the officer.)
(The officer examines the license. He looks quite puzzled.)
Officer 2:
Thank you ma'am, one of my officers told me you didn't have a license, that you stole this car, and that you murdered and hacked up the owner.
Older Woman:
Well for heavens sake, how ridiculous!! ! I Bet the liar told you I was speeding, too.

The Moral Of The Story?
Don't Mess With Old Ladies!!

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Monday, June 23, 2008

Mom Vs Dad

A little girl asked her mother,
'How did the human race appear?'
The mother answered,
'God made Adam and Eve and they had children and then all mankind was made.'

Two days later the girl asked her father the same question.
The father answered,
'Many years ago there were monkeys from which the human race evolved.'

The confused girl returned to her mother and said,
'Mom, how is it possible that you told me the human race was created by God, and Dad said they developed from monkeys?'

The mother answered,
'Well, dear, it is very simple.
I told you about my side of the family and your father told you about his.'

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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

the Transformer

Today's word with Joel & Victoria:


You life will move in the direction of your most dominant thoughts. You can choose to think according the world’s system or according to God’s system. The world’s system says to “look out for number one,” to do whatever you can to get ahead and make yourself happy. But in God’s system, you find happiness and blessing by serving and putting others first. God doesn’t want us to have an attitude that is self-centered, or jealous, or greedy. He knows that those thoughts end in destruction. God wants us to live a blessed and prosperous life. That’s why the scripture tells us to renew our minds, or transform our thinking. We have to make sure our thoughts are the same as God’s thoughts. Just like a computer, whatever you allow into your mind is what will come out in your attitude and actions. The more you meditate on God’s Word, the more you will transform your thinking to be like God’s thinking. Choose today to focus on the Word of God and allow your mind to be renewed. As you focus on God’s thoughts, you will see your actions become more like Him, and you will see His hand of blessing in every area of your life.

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Thursday, June 05, 2008

My ICE CREAM,..

Your Ice Cream Personality:



You like to think of yourself as a fairly modest person. And it's true that you don't talk yourself up... but you're also pretty happy with who you are.



You have a wild reputation, but you're not as wild as you seem. You take risks, but only measured risks.



You are a somewhat open minded person, but deep down you're fairly conservative. You don't like trying new things very much. And if you do find something new you like, you stick with it.



You are a natural multitasker. You feel alive when you're doing more than one thing at a time.



You are a serious and contemplative person. You definitely do your own thing in life.

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