Define L-O-V-E

What is love for you, Nia?
A good friend of mine asked.

It is a good question. Shakespeare, too, was trying to figure that out.

They do not love that do not show their love.
The course of true love never did run smooth.
Love is a familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but Love.

He wrote.

But, how would you define love in a not-Shakespeare term?

Falling in love likes liking something or someone, and you cannot get enough of it. You want more, more and more.

It is for me.

It is like when you say “I love chocolate!”

You so love it that you cannot get enough of it. You cannot resist the temptation to have more, more, and more.

Whatever form it may possess, you still love it! Whether it is small, big; beautifully wrapped or just a big, ugly chunk of it. You just gonna love it!

It is how I define love.

You start falling in love with someone. You cannot stop thinking about him. You cannot stop wanting to meet him. You just met, but you want to meet again. You just had dinner, but you so need to call him before you go to bed.

You cannot get enough of him.

You want to see him. You want to hear his voice. You want to meet him. You want to get a grip of his hand, even though they are the same five-fingers hands all the time, yes, you want to hold these hands like, forever!

Call me childish, but isn’t love so beautifully childish?

And another good thing of being falling in love is it lasts forever!

Another friend perceives love as home.
Yes, a home!

Everywhere you go, anywhere you go; you will go back to a home. Wherever it is, isn’t it? It could be your hometown. It could be your second hometown. It could be anywhere!

But a real home is where your beloved one is.

It doesn’t matter when time is rough. It doesn’t matter when the storm strike, because you are home, with the one you love the most.

I agree. I approve her definition of love.

Refer to what my friend asked earlier “what is love for you, Nia?”

I guess, these are my definitions.

Does yours the same? Or even better?

Let’s fall in love!

4 People You Will Meet in Life

Four people you will meet in life. Life is the process of finding love; every person will need to find four people in their life.

First person is you, second person is the one you love most, third person is the one who love you most, and the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.

In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most doesn’t love you. The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never theone you love most or the one who love you most.

He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are you in other people’s life?

No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. But when he doesn’t love you anymore, he really doesn’t love you anymore. When he loves you, he can’t pretend that he doesn’t. Same goes, when he loves you no more, there’s no way he can pretend he loves you.

When a person doesn’t love you and wants to leave you. You must ask yourself if you still love him, if you also don’t love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don’t love him, and if you don’t love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?

Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can’t just take it down and put it in your basin, but the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad, you can’t wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he can’t change to become what you like him to be, you don’t love him anymore.

When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him, you only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn’t strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.

When two people are in love, they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don’t trust each other, they don’t trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?

Be careful when making promises; don’t make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Remember, swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!! In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The one saying, doesn’t believe; the one listening, also doesn’t believe.

Source: http://www.rumahrenungan.com/

Too Much Love

Too much love will kill you
Just as sure as none at all
It'll drain the power that's in you
Make you plead and scream and crawl
And the pain will make you crazy
You're the victim of your crime
Too much love will kill you
Every time

Too much love will kill you
It'll make your life a lie
Yes, too much love will kill you
And you won't understand why
You'd give your life, you'd sell your soul
But here it comes again
Too much love will kill you
In the end...

(Too Much Love Will Kill You - Queen)

Lord, is it true?
that too much love will kill me?
Is it true?

If it is, I guess I know why I am feeling miserable rite now.
Because I have so much love, yet I don't feel I am loved the same way.
and it is killing me.

I shan't have too much, then

Sikap Yang Bisa Merusak Hubungan

This article below has blessed me and my relationship. I and Stefy have been through some difficult times regarding fighting and conflict resolution.

I would sometimes withdraw and would not talk at all, because of my anger; and Stefy would get very upset because I could never express what I felt or thought. It was all so confusing!

I didn't realize until I read this article.
I didn't know that that what makes we are men and women

Fewh,.. and now, again, we are trying to fight better and resolve our problems wiser.

Thank's God

---

Saat Anda menjalin hubungan dengan seseorang, mungkin Anda pernah mengalami beberapa masalah. Terkadang masalah tersebut mengakibatkan perselisihan antara Anda dengan pasangan. Untuk menyelesaikan masalah dengan pasangan, sebaiknya Anda simak sikap yang harus Anda hindari agar tidak menyakiti hati pasangan Anda.

Berkelahi

Sikap ini berasal dari Mars. Jika percakapan menjadi tidak menyenangkan dan tidak mendukung, maka sebagian orang lalu mulai berkelahi. Mereka menyerang dengan menyalahkan, menilai atau mengadili, mengkritik dan membuat pasangannya terlihat bersalah. Saat pasangan mereka mengalah maka mereka merasa menang. Padahal sebenarnya mereka kalah. Intimidasi melemahkan rasa percaya di dalam hubungan.

Lari

Sikap ini juga berasal dari Mars. Untuk menghindari konfrontasi, kaum martian lalu menarik diri ke goa mereka dan tidak pernah keluar lagi. Mereka menolak bicara sehingga tidak bisa menyelesaikan masalah. Daripada berdebat, sebagian pasangan memilih berhenti membicarakan masalah tersebut. Untuk jangka pendek, pasangan ini memang merasa mendapatkan kedamaian dan harmoni. Tapi jika perasaan Anda tidak didengarkan maka akan muncul rasa benci. Untuk jangka panjang, pasangan ini akan kehilangan sentuhan asmara dan perasaan saling cinta yang membuat mereka tertarik kepada satu sama lain.

Pura-pura

Sikap ini berasal dari Venus. Untuk menghindari perasaan terluka atau sakit hati maka orang ini tidak ada masalah. Mereka tersenyum dan terlihat bahagia. Tapi lama-kelamaan mereka akan berubah menjadi benci dan menghambat ungkapan cinta alamiah mereka. Untuk menghindari gejolak maka orang yang berpura-pura ini bahkan membohongi diri mereka sendiri bahwa segala sesuatu baik-baik saja.

Menyerah

Sikap ini juga berasal dari Venus. Daripada bertengkar atau berdebat maka orang ini akan memilih menyerah. Mereka menerima disalahkan atau bertanggung jawab atas sesuatu yang membuat marah pasangannya meskipun itu bukan kesalahannya. Untuk jangka pendek, mereka bisa menciptakan kesan seperti pasangan yang saling mencinta dan mendukung. Tapi pada akhirnya, keduanya akan kehilangan diri sendiri.

Anda mungkin mengenali adanya salah satu gejala di atas dalam hubungan Anda. Masing-masing sikap ini bertujuan melindungi diri Anda sendiri tidak terluka atau sakit hati. Sayangnya cara seperti ini tidak ada gunanya. Lebih baik mengakui adanya masalah, bicarakan lalu hentikan. Ambil waktu untuk menenangkan diri lalu kembali lagi dan bicarakan lagi. Coba komunikasi dengan saling menghargai satu sama lain. Dari cara ini, Anda akan bisa menemukan cara bertengkar tanpa menyakiti hati atau menjatuhkan harga diri.


Source: Jawaban.com